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| <blockquote>Exercise: This exercise allows the participants to reflect on their personal motivations, as well as connect with the motivations of others in the group. Frame the exercise and pose the question 'what motivates you to get up in the morning and face the day?' (or something similar). Explain that people can individually reflect on the question for a few minutes, write down one or more answers. Give a small bunch of post-its to every participant, instruct them to write one answer per post it. Inform the participants that the answers will be shared with the group, and that the goal is to create a collective map of motivations. </blockquote> | <blockquote>Exercise: This exercise allows the participants to reflect on their personal motivations, as well as connect with the motivations of others in the group. Frame the exercise and pose the question 'what motivates you to get up in the morning and face the day?' (or something similar). Explain that people can individually reflect on the question for a few minutes, write down one or more answers. Give a small bunch of post-its to every participant, instruct them to write one answer per post it. Inform the participants that the answers will be shared with the group, and that the goal is to create a collective map of motivations. </blockquote> |
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| | Participants' comments on characteristics of solo conversation: |
| | * It brings you closer to yourself |
| | * The clustering of individual responses connects the group |
| | * The question from the exercise is quite existential, and made the participants feel vulnerable |
| | * Knowing that there would be a reporting to the group focused the 'conversation with self' |
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| === Intimate - duo === | === Intimate - duo === |
| At the end, the person who took notes reports in a few words the feelings, actions and resources that make inspiring situations possible. The facilitator (or a volunteer) summarises the key points. </blockquote> | At the end, the person who took notes reports in a few words the feelings, actions and resources that make inspiring situations possible. The facilitator (or a volunteer) summarises the key points. </blockquote> |
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| | Comments from participants: |
| | * There isn't much time to reflect: listening and processing has to happen at the same time, so it's difficult to ask the 'right' questions |
| | * Having to speak while someone else is intently listening causes a 'swimming pool' of confused ideas |
| | * Important to share with the group, the person listening can convey non verbal communication as well, which helps with getting a deeper understanding of the other |
| | * AI - it feels good to talk about 'good times' |
| | * The feeling of being self-conscious and vulnerable is helped as both people have to assume the same role |
| | * you end up helping each other and encouraging openness |
| | * the person who listens has to sense what the other needs |
| | * it helps to be honest about your own insecurity, then allowing each other to be uncertain |
| | * fear needs to be acknowledged from the beginning |
| | * time pressure is difficult to get into a deep conversation. |
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| === Active - trio === | === Active - trio === |
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| <blockquote> We didn't have enough people to practice break-out conversations, but an exercise would be: Frame the conversation in the whole group. Give instructions about the break-outs, the topic, etiquette, duration and format of the conversation, as well as the format of the reporting to the larger group. Assign moderators and reporters (or let them emerge from the group). Find a quick and easy way for people to find which breakout group to go to. During the conversations, walk around and remind people of the topic and the instructions (if needed). Host the reporting and summarise the key points at the end. </blockquote> | <blockquote> We didn't have enough people to practice break-out conversations, but an exercise would be: Frame the conversation in the whole group. Give instructions about the break-outs, the topic, etiquette, duration and format of the conversation, as well as the format of the reporting to the larger group. Assign moderators and reporters (or let them emerge from the group). Find a quick and easy way for people to find which breakout group to go to. During the conversations, walk around and remind people of the topic and the instructions (if needed). Host the reporting and summarise the key points at the end. </blockquote> |
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| | Comments from participants: |
| | * difficult to find volunteers to moderate and/or report back (possible solutions - having someone from the hosting team act as a 'pollinator' who reports back, find a way to do visual reporting (mind maps, freeze frames...), have a whole group report back and support each other through physical closeness |
| | * there has to be sufficient clarity of instructions, otherwise it's difficult for the participants - they need a clear question, written in breakout spaces |
| | * breakouts over several days can become like a supportive 'family' inside a larger community, giving a feeling of safety and security to the participants |
| | * breakouts help with sharing a 'vibe' and making connections |
| | * shy people feel more comfortable speaking in breakouts |
| | * danger: the moderator imposing where the conversations should go. Good to separate the roles of moderator and reporter to avoid this. |
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| === Unifying - whole group === | === Unifying - whole group === |
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| <blockquote>Exercise: [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exquisite_corpse|cadavre exquis]] in a circle. Try out three different listening circles using the talking piece. Frame the exercise as a collaborative storytelling, where each person says one sentence, and the next one builds on it. First try out the circle where one person starts and gives the talking piece to the person on their left. Next put the talking piece in the centre of the circle, let one person start and pass the talking piece to a person whom they'd like to hear next. Finally, put the talking piece in the centre and invite the participants to pick it up and speak when they feel ready. </blockquote> | <blockquote>Exercise: [[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exquisite_corpse|cadavre exquis]] in a circle. Try out three different listening circles using the talking piece. Frame the exercise as a collaborative storytelling, where each person says one sentence, and the next one builds on it. First try out the circle where one person starts and gives the talking piece to the person on their left. Next put the talking piece in the centre of the circle, let one person start and pass the talking piece to a person whom they'd like to hear next. Finally, put the talking piece in the centre and invite the participants to pick it up and speak when they feel ready. </blockquote> |
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| | Comments from participants: |
| | * It feels calmer when the ordering is set and you know your turn. Listening becomes easy, because you don't have to think of the order, on the other hand some participants then keep thinking of what they're going to say instead of listening. |
| | * Listening is best when you don't know when your turn is, but the reflection is shallower |
| | * Choosing feels most comfortable. If there is a choice, some people want to go last (out of politeness), so there are longer silences. |
| | * Choosing which circle form to use depends on circumstance and topic. |
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| | === Conclusion === |
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| In all of the conversation forms above, the role of the host is the same: | In all of the conversation forms above, the role of the host is the same: |
| * Summarising, summarising, summarising | * Summarising, summarising, summarising |
| * Note taking (or harvesting, can be delegated if there is someone else available). | * Note taking (or harvesting, can be delegated if there is someone else available). |
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| Using a combination of solo, duo, trio, break-outs and circles, you can design many different flows and formats. When combining different conversation forms together, think about what kind of conversation is most appropriate for the topic and the goals. Some need more contemplation or intimate sharing, others more active and unifying conversations, some can benefit form having all the forms above, put together in a 'logical flow. We will deal with how to design flows in one of the next sessions, For now, think about how the different conversation forms would fit in a [[http://sustainabilitythinking.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/scharmertheoryu21.jpg|U format]]. | Using a combination of solo, duo, trio, break-outs and circles, you can design many different flows and formats. When combining different conversation forms together, think about what kind of conversation is most appropriate for the topic and the goals. Some need more contemplation or intimate sharing, others more active and unifying conversations, some can benefit form having all the forms above, put together in a 'logical flow. We will deal with how to design flows in one of the next sessions, For now, think about how the different conversation forms would fit in a [[http://sustainabilitythinking.files.wordpress.com/2011/10/scharmertheoryu21.jpg|U format]]. |
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